RELATED: Couples Who Follow This Weird Rule Stay In The Honeymoon Phase Forever If you answered “true” to one or more of the above, then you’re addicted to dating drama. In my experience as a dating coach, I’ve found that dramatic behavior in relationships is quite common. The good news is that this addiction can effectively be broken by building your self-esteem. But that’s just the first step of this dating advice. When your self-esteem and self-respect are low, you will naturally attract (and be attracted to) emotionally abusive types. The opposite is true when you feel good about who you are and truly believe that you’re worthy of a loving, healthy relationship. The problem for drama addicts is that once they meet a worthy partner, they can’t seem to enjoy the relationship fully. In an unhealthy relationship, it’s common for drama addicts to focus on their significant other’s happiness so much that they neglect their own needs. They become so tuned into his moods and feelings that they cease to have their own. They buckle themselves into the emotional roller coaster and go along for the ride. Is any of this sounding familiar? We can get hooked on relationships like these because they’re kind of like a drug. RELATED: 3 Rituals All The Best Spouses Do For Each Other Every Single Day Sure, the lows are really low (the put-downs, the rages, the fights), but the highs are really high (the passion, the excitement, the romantic way he gets when you make up after a fight). We start to endure the lows because we’re living for the highs. While this might seem exciting, it’s definitely not healthy. With a history of relationships like these, it’s no wonder that stable, honest men who love us and would never dream of hurting us seem kind of bland in comparison. Well, guess what? You’ve got to get over it because good guys are where it’s at! And once you get your self-esteem in check, you’re halfway there. Once you believe that you deserve real love and respect, the other half is getting used to how that feels. Here are just some things you can expect from a healthy relationship:
Unconditional love (you can’t “screw up” or DO anything to make him stop loving you) and acceptance of you for who you are.No more having to jump through emotional hoops to get your needs met.A true partnership of equals where you challenge one another other, inspire each other and give one another the freedom to grow as individuals.
Sounds fabulous, right? It is. So what will help you get over that feeling that something is “missing” when there’s no more emotional roller coaster? RELATED: This Tiny Clue Is Why I Shouldn’t Have Married My Husband Easy. It’s a matter of realizing that life has plenty of its own ups and downs without needing to create drama in our romantic relationships. When we’re a part of that healthy partnership, we function as a support system for one another to help each other through life’s ups and downs. The highs we experience are the joys that life brings — the perfect summer day, realizing our career goals, a baby being born — and our wonderful man is there to cheer us on. The lows we endure are inevitable — disappointments, setbacks, health challenges, losing a loved one — and our partner is there to hold us, console us, and help us get through them. The roller coaster of life is a whole lot easier to enjoy when the person we choose to share a seat with is on our side rather than against us. RELATED: 9 Game-Changing Relationship Rules The Happiest Couples Follow Paige Parker is the founder of Dating Without Drama. She teaches women to improve their self-esteem and better understand men so they can find and keep a loving relationship.
